Many people are born on festival days. Some feel that everyone is celebrating the festival and almost forget their birthday. Festival celebration takes over the attention they deserved on that day.
A different situation is when on someone's birthday, anniversary, or a happy occasion, a loved one dies. In this scenario, it becomes difficult for loved ones to celebrate or even think of celebrations. However, they can not live their whole life in that sadness. Remembring the dead person and mourn or celebrate and enjoy life becomes a dilemma. So what should they choose, celebrate the occasion or mourn the dead?
It is an individual choice and depends on many factors. Some considerations are the importance of the occasion, how close the dead person was, basic inherent tendencies of the people, emotional states, etc.
Many people change the date of the funeral. Is it appropriate to change someone's funeral date so that some people can celebrate their birthday or anniversary? As a dead person has no say now so others can decide and change his funeral day?
Some of the main festivals fall on a famous person's death day. This year, 2020, the Deepawali festival falls on the same day when Rishi Dayanand left his physical body.
Hindus have a festival/celebration every single day. So, everyone leaves this physical body on a festive day. Many atmas leave the physical body on any given day. Simultaneously many others take a new body on the same day. Someone's birthday is someone's death day.
As per Sanatan dharm, even dead people hear us (I mean their atma). Only the physical body is dead. The atma is moving ahead in his journey. We should not stop or create obstacles in their journey by radiating negative energy and sad feelings. After the death of the physical body, atma keeps its vibrations and thoughts. It also catches other people's thoughts and vibrations.
That atma now can not come back in the same body, so how will it respond to sad thoughts and blaming, accusations of leaving others behind, etc. Will not it gets hurt? This painful remembrance will make it hard for it to move forward in his journey to reincarnate or attain moksha.
Atma can hear and catch thoughts before the next physical birth. Remember, Abhimanyu did hear his parents' conversation in the womb. People in a coma or under anesthesia may remember conversations and catch others' thoughts and energies. Many people who experienced near-death or out-of-body experience remember seeing and hearing others.
Some scientific studies have shown that consciousness can extend past clinical death.
So, instead of mourning and developing sad feelings, pray for the peaceful, successful journey of departed atma, remember him fondly, and celebrate your occasions and festivals.
- How do you console a mother whose son dies on Mother's day or a son whose mother leaves her body on this day?
- How do other siblings celebrate mother's day then?
It is very hard to console a mom on mother's day, if her child died on that day. Somebody should explain her that her child remained with her as long as his आत्मिक relationships were with her.
जातस्य हि ध्रुवो मृत्युध्रुँवं जन्म मृतस्य च। तस्मादपरिहायेँडथेँ न त्वं शोचितुमहँसि ।।
इस संसार में जिसका जन्म हुआ है, उसकी मृत्यु निश्चित है, और जिसकी मृत्यु हो गयी है उसका जन्म भी निश्चित रुप से होगा। इसलिये निश्चितरुप से होने वाला है, उसका शोक नहीं करना चाहिए। आत्मा का न कभी जन्म होता है न कभी इसकी मृत्यु होती है। यह शरीर के मर जाने पर भी आत्मा नहीं मरता। इसलिये दु:खी नहीं होना चाहिए।
वो बार-बार अग्नि होत्र करे। इससे उनको शांति मिलेगी। समय ही एक मलम है जो रुझा शकते है।
जबतक अविधा के संस्कार नष्ट नहीं होंगे, तबतक माता को दु:ख रहेगा।
Time is the only solution to cope with it. Do more and more sandhya, agnihotra etc.
भगवान श्री कृष्णने भागवत ग़ीतामें कहा हैः "जो जन्म लेता है उसकी मृत्यु निश्चित है, मृत्यु सत्य है और शरीर नश्वर हैं, मृत्यु अवश्यंभावी है इसलिये मृतकका शोक योग्य नहीं" .
यह जानते हुए भी वास्तवमें अपनों के जाने का दुःख होता ही है... एसे समयमें हमें ईश्वर से प्रार्थना करनी चाहिए कि दिवंगत आत्मा को शांति और मोक्ष प्रदान करें... ॐ शांतिः ॐ शांतिः ॐ शांतिः ।
देहिनोऽस्मिन्यथा देहे कौमारं यौवनं जरा ।
तथा देहान्तरप्राप्तिर्धीरस्तत्र न मुह्यति ॥ २-१३॥Gita
As embodied atma continuously and effortlessly passes through childhood to youth to old age, similarly it passes to another body after death. A wise person does not get deluded by death.
न जायते म्रियते वा कदाचि
न्नायं भूत्वा भविता वा न भूयः।
अजो नित्यः शाश्वतोऽयं पुराणो
न हन्यते हन्यमाने शरीरे।।2.20।।
यह शरीरी न कभी जन्मता है और न मरता है तथा यह उत्पन्न होकर फिर होनेवाला नहीं है। यह जन्मरहित, नित्य-निरन्तर रहनेवाला, शाश्वत और पुराण (अनादि) है। शरीरके मारे जानेपर भी यह नहीं मारा जाता।
वासांसि जीर्णानि यथा विहाय
नवानि गृह्णाति नरोऽपराणि |
तथा शरीराणि विहाय जीर्णा
न्यन्यानि संयाति नवानि देही ||2- 22||
As a person sheds worn-out garments and wears new ones, likewise, at the time of death, the soul casts off its worn-out body and enters a new one.
नैनं छिन्दन्ति शस्त्राणि नैनं दहति पावक: |
न चैनं क्लेदयन्त्यापो न शोषयति मारुत: ||2- 23||
Weapons cannot shred the soul, nor can fire burn it. Water cannot wet it, nor can the wind dry it.
In Hindi we never say that a person is dead. We use the word Dehaant देहांत . Dehaant means ant अंत of deh देह i.e. death of body. Atma never dies. It is the body which ends functioning.
As soon as we take birth, life starts going away and death starts coming near and nearer. It is not a cycle of life and then death and then life again. Life and death exist together. Every moment we are dying. Death is a part of life.
Remember good times spent with the diseased person, cherish memories but do not stop him from going forward in his journey. Do not complain, do not radiate pain, do not ask- why you left me, what am I going to do without you, etc. Celebrate his life, do not mourn.
We go to different places, meet many people, develop relationships, but the only thing which always stays with us is the memories. Memories are portable and go with us where ever we go.
For good memories do charity for them, engage in activities they liked, take forward their unfinished tasks, etc. Try to write memories of time spent together. Do not hold the feelings inside, try to express, share, and write those feelings. You can display happy pictures of diseased with you. Even dedicate a wall to his photos, reminding you of happy moments spents together.
Whatever happened, has happened. Do not live your remaining life in pain and suffering. Don't you want to spread happiness, explore, contribute to society, etc. Forgetting past is a strength in some situations.
The person, who left this world, does not want to see you in pain. He never wished to see you in this pain. He or she will get deeply hurt when you are crying and calling him back. He will not like you to be in this condition of inconsolable suffering.
Think about the person who left his body and this world. We lost him only but he lost all of his relations. We still have everyone else around us but he has no one with him. He does not even know his destination, journey, and new relations.
Thank him for the time he spent with us and the company he gave us.
Try to connect with him at the level of thoughts. Ask him to accept your well wishes for his future journey. Ask him to call you whenever he needs you.
Actually it is wrong to say that so and so left this world. That atma may be around us in different form. Atma is indestructible. It is on a journey and it has a goal.
Atma is never born and it never dies. Whatever happened, is happening, and will happen is for good. Body is made of five elements and will dissolve in five elements. Atma is permanent.
No matter how much support you have it is a lonely journey that no one else can walk for you.
Try to fill the void left by the diseased person. However, do not fill that void with pain.
Void may stay for ever but learn to grow around that void. Dead person died only once but grieving people make him die repeatedly.
Even if you want you can not go with the dead person and accompany him. You have to deal with your karms and he has to deal with his. Whatever is witten in destiny, it will happen. You do not control that. You can not even control your own body. Do you make your heart beat at your own will? do you make your kidneys work as per your wishes. Our body functions even when we are sleeping. There is someone else controlling all this. We do not make galaxies movements, planets arrangements, etc? Let the creator do his job and surrender to him.
This whole universe is conscious. Consiousness changes forms but it never dies. It means that no one ever dies. Deads are here in different forms.
Similarly, no one takes birth. What we call birth is just appearance of a new form of consciousness.
Anyway what is the birth for humans? Is it the delivery time? Is it conception time? Is it the time when raw materials for body were finalized ?
Why we are happy on birthdays? Should not we be feeling sad on birthdays also, as our life is decreasing every moment. Why grieve only when whole body is gone?
Realistically no one takes birth and no one dies. It is just change of forms.
Many skin cells die each day, nails are dead, haIr are dead-- do we grieve for these? Are not these parts of our body?
We do not grieve when body is dying bit by bit. We feel loss and death when whole body is dead.
We all are mortal and dying slowly, every single moment. Every passing moment is decreasing our life and bringing us near to death. Everyone has to go through these cycles. The only difference is that we are at different stages in this cycle. Life is not static, it is a moving target and keeps slipping away every moment.
Let the atma go peacefully on his journey. Do prarthana for its journey to attain moksh. Please do not try to entangle him in karm bandhan.
इस प्रकृति मे हर कण, हरेक वस्तु गतिशील है , स्थिरता मात्र एक भ्रम है ,
जो हमे स्थिर लगता है , उसका भी कोई ना कोई हिस्सा गतिशील ही है ।
एक वस्तु या पदार्थ का उदाहरण सोच कर उसके हिस्सो पर मनन चिंतन करीये की क्या ये पूर्ण रुपेण स्थिर है, क्या इसका हरेक हिस्सा स्थिर है ??
तो फिर आत्मा स्थिरावस्था या रेस्ट मे हो सकती है क्या ? आत्मा हमेशा प्रृकृति के गुणो को देखते हुये चलायमान / गतिशील होकर , अनंत यात्रा पर ही हो सकती है ।।
Do not try to find dead person in surroundings. Do not think that he is in winds, light, grass, stars, etc.. If you think that he is in surroundings than chances are that you will never come out of grief. पता एक बार पेड़ से गिर जाता है तो दोबारा उठ कर पेड़ पर नहीं लग सकता
Humans are mortal. Death and suffering are present since the creation of the universe. People died in Satyug, treta yug, dwapar yug and are dying in kalyug. Ram left his body, Krishn left his body then who are we to live forever?
There were deaths and sufferings during Buddha's era. Prince Siddharth left his palace after seeing suffering, death, and aging.
Do not compare your situation with others. It is not humane to feel happy knowing that others sufferings are more than us. Sufferings can make us more strong, compassionate, humbal, and empathetic.
For atheists-- Everything in universe is a form of energy. In this universe, energies just exist. These are not created or destroyed. Energies can change form but these never die. The person who died was a form of energy, after death he or she becomes a different form of energy but that energy stays in this world, around us. So, technically, the so called dead never leave this world.
Some activities, like nature walk remind us that we are part of something bigger and that it will always be there for us when we need it.
Body after death will feed the ground which will feed the tree roots which will feed the birds and squirrels and so on. In this way, life comes out of death.
Om shanti
Kya lekar aaya bande, kya lekar jayega
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“Grief is like a wildflower, it can erupt from the ground anywhere it chooses, when it blossoms we must be careful not to step on it. Instead, we honor its existence and appreciate that love made it bloom. -Zoe Clark-Coates”
There is only one direction in life and it is forward direction. There is no stop, back, rewind, or replay button.
The difference between real life and video game is that in games, the characters can start the battle over and over again after the loss. In real life, we have to sustain and live with our loss. So, we need to choose our battles wisely. The future does not just happen. We write our future and we need to write it well.
Just something to think- do we want to focus on life or death? Do we have a perverse desire to demonstrate the depth and value of our relationship by the severity and length of our despair ? A loved one is like losing a limb -- it is gone forever-- it will never grow back-- we will never be quite whole again. We experience ghost pain --like it is still there , the felt pain is real. The question is how long do we sit missing the leg-- and why would we look in askance at someone that advises us to get up and move -- or offers us a crutch or someone to lean on ? We all must make adaptations, we do not have to like them-- this is never going to be fun- to be pleasant-- just necessary. Just because MY world imploded does not mean the earth stops turning.
Whatever good times you got with the diseased person are treasures to enjoy. You can not undo the death but you can slow down your own demise due to suffering and you can prevent the spread of your grief and suffering around you.
If you look around, you will find many people suffering. Do not feel happy that others are also suffering but share the suffering together, help them in anyway you can.
Love is immortal, life is eternal, and death is an illusion. Fake or superficial love brings grief with it. Real love never lands in grief, it just becomes everlasting.
When someone is in his terminal stage of life, the advise to stay positive and strong is not comforting. They need to accept the situation and not fear the concept of death and dying. They have to give meaning to the short life left with them. Living while dying is an art.
Giving up attitude comes from despair.
Letting go attitude comes from acceptance, awareness, and wisdom.
Any encounter or interaction with anyone can be the last one. Should not we happily live that moment and try to make it memorable and joyous?
How to deal with loss:
- Try to think of good memories
- Accept the truth that the person is gone
- Make a routine of activities
- Think of it as making you strong
- Think that this is a way life introduces new people in our life
- It helps in self sufficiency
- It makes us humble
- Seek help from friends, spiritual Guru
- It is a opportunity to move forward with something important
- Remember that life is a continuation of change
- Loss teaches us something profound
- Establish and anchor in oneself
- It is an opportunity to practice let go and detachment
- Do not be angry at others
Shiva has Vasuki around his neck. It reminds us that death is always around us. Death can bite us anytime. We come in this manifested world with our karmas, energy, and sanskaras. However, our goal should be to leave this world with no baggage. We should leave empty-minded and empty-handed. Life is not for gaining things but for losing things.
Death is not the opposite of life. It is just a change in the vibrations of consciousness. Everything dies and new things are born. The whole brahmand/universe collapses/disappears but new universes/brahmands are forming. Skin cells, blood cells, organ cells die many times before the final death of the body.
Death is not final. Immortality, merging with परमात्मा is final. Mrityorma amratam gamaya.
Yamraj does not kill anyone. He is not the killer. He just escorts the atma to the other world. He shows the path to the atma to go to the psychic world. Yog also takes us there.
Yam’s sister Yami brings atma back to this world. It is a cycle of going to the psychic world and coming back to this world. Tantra also brings us back in this world.
Yam and Yami as well as Yog and Tantra are a cycle to transcend life and death.
Some people who defied death are-
- Satyavan (Savitri brought him back from Yamraj)
- Ganesh (Shiva brought him back to life after cutting his head)
- Pandavs (Yudhistir brought his brothers back, from Yaksha, after their death)
- Prahalad escaped the fire.
- Markandeya got immortality from Shiv on the day of his forecasted death.
Bharti Raizada
The desirable state of life or the highest goal of life in Sanatana Dharama: Jivanmukta
In Advaita Vedanta, the interest is not in liberation in after life, but in one's current life.This school holds that liberation can be achieved while living, and a person who achieves this is called a Jivanmukta.
The concept of Jivanmukti of Advaita Vedanta contrasts with Videhamukti (moksha from samsara after death) in theistic sub-schools of Vedanta. Jivanmukti is a state that transforms the nature, attributes and behaviors of an individual, after which the liberated individual shows attributes such as:
he is not bothered by disrespect and endures cruel words, treats others with respect regardless of how others treat him;
when confronted by an angry person he does not return anger, instead replies with soft and kind words;
even if tortured, he speaks and trusts the truth;
he does not crave for blessings or expect praise from others;
he never injures or harms any life or being (ahimsa), he is intent in the welfare of all beings;
he is as comfortable being alone as in the presence of others;
he is as comfortable with a bowl, at the foot of a tree in tattered robe without help, as when he is in a mithuna (union of mendicants), grama (village) and nagara (city);
he does not care about or wear sikha (tuft of hair on the back of head for religious reasons), nor the holy thread across his body. To him, knowledge is sikha, knowledge is the holy thread, knowledge alone is supreme. Outer appearances and rituals do not matter to him, only knowledge matters;
for him there is no invocation nor dismissal of deities, no mantra nor non-mantra, no prostrations nor worship of gods, goddess or ancestors, nothing other than knowledge of Self;
he is humble, high spirited, of clear and steady mind, straightforward, compassionate, patient, indifferent, courageous, speaks firmly and with sweet words.
Now this concept is so near to the state of Buddhahood in Buddhism. But there is a difference. Advait philosophy recognizes the existence of an indestructible soul Atman, which Buddhism does not.
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ज़रा सा फर्क होता है, लोगों के जिंदा रहने में और एक दिन ना रहने में
ये इतने सारे लोग जो गए हैं, क्या कभी इनको देखकर ऐसा लगा था ?
कि ये यूंही चले जायेंगे बिना कुछ कहे, बिना बताए
उन सब से हमे कुछ लगाव था, कुछ शिकायतें थी
कुछ नाराज़गी भी थी, जो कभी कही नहीं हमने
और कहा तो वो भी नहीं था, जो उन सब इंसानो में बेहद पसंद था हमें
फिर अचानक सुबह एक दिन खबर आती है, ये नहीं रहे, वो नहीं रहे
नहीं रहे मतलब, कैसे नहीं रहे ? कैसे एक पल में सब बदल जाता है
वही सारे लोग जिनसे हम मिले थे अभी कुछ समय पहले
वे इतनी जल्दी गायब कैसे हो सकते है, कि दोबारा मिलेंगे ही नहीं
जैसे वे कभी कुछ बोले ही न थे ना जिये
जैसे कोई बेजान खिलौना, जिसकी चाबी खत्म हो गयी हो
कितना कुछ कहना रह गया था उन सब को
कहीं घूमने फिरने जाना था उन सब के साथ
खाना भी खाना था, पार्टियां भी करनी थी
कुछ बताना था, कुछ कहना भी था उन सब को
बहुत सी बातें करनी थी फ़िज़ूल की ही सही
वो भी कहाँ हो पाया सब रह गया, वो सब चले गए
न हम सब तैयार थे, न वो सब तैयार थे, रुख़्सती के लिए
ऐसे ही एक दिन हमारी भी खबर आनी है, एक सुबह
कि वो फलाने नहीं रहे
लोग अरे! कह के एक मिनिट खामोश होंगे
फिर जीवन बढ़ जाएगा आगे
इसलिए आओ तैयारी कर लेते हैं
सब नाराज़गी, शिकायतों और तारीफों का हिसाब चुका के रख लेते हैं
ज़िंदगी हल्की हो जाएगी, तो आखरी सांस पर मलाल का वज़न नहीं रहेगा
क्योंकि
ज़रा सा फर्क होता है
लोगों के जिंदा रहने में और एक दिन ना रहने में
उन सभी दिवंगत आत्माओं को नमन जिनको हमने इस बीमारी में खो दिया।
सभी को देख लिया,
सालों साल सुबह नियम से गार्डन जाने वालों को भी,
खेलकूद खेलने वालों को भी,
जिमिंग वालों को भी,
रोजाना योगा करने वालों को भी,
'अर्ली टू बेड अर्ली टू राइज' रूटीन वाले अनुशासितों को भी,
.. कोरोना ने किसी को नहीं छोड़ा !!
उन स्वास्थ्य सजग व्यवहारिकों को भी, जिन्होंने फटाफट दोनों वैक्सीन लगवा ली थीं!!
बचा वही है, जिसका एक्स्पोज़र नहीं हुआ या कहिए कि किसी कारणवश वायरस से सामना नहीं हुआ!
हालांकि उनका खतरा अभी बरकरार है !!
दूसरी बात,
ऐसे बहुत लोग मृत्यु को प्राप्त हुए जिन्हें कोई को-मॉरबिडिटीज (अतिरिक्त बीमारियां) नहीं थीं!
वहीं, ऐसे अनेक लोग बहुत बिगाड़ के बावज़ूद बच गए जिनका स्वास्थ्य कमज़ोर माना जाता था.. और जिन्हें अनेक बीमारियां भी थीं!!
कारण क्या है ??
ध्यान से सुनिए,
हेल्थ, सिर्फ़ शरीर का मामला नहीं है !!
आप चाहें, तो खूब प्रोटीन और विटामिन से शरीर भर लें,
खूब व्यायाम कर लें और शरीर में ऑक्सीजन भर लें,
योगासन करें और शरीर को आड़ा तिरछा मोड़ लें,
मगर, संपूर्ण स्वास्थ्य सिर्फ डायट, एक्सरसाइज़ और ऑक्सीजन से संबंधित नहीं है ..
चित्त, बुद्धि और भावना का क्या कीजिएगा ???
उपनिषदों ने बहुत पहले कह दिया था कि हमारे पांच शरीर होते हैं!
अन्न, प्राण, मन, विज्ञान और आनंदमय शरीर !!
इसे ऐसे समझिए,
कि जैसे किसी प्रश्न पत्र में 20-20 नंबर के पांच प्रश्न हैं और टोटल मार्क्स 100 हैं !
सिर्फ बाहरी शरीर(अन्नमय) पर ध्यान देना ऐसा ही है, कि आपने 20 मार्क्स का एक ही क्वेश्चन अटेंप्ट किया है !
जबकि, प्राण-शरीर का प्रश्न भी 20 नंबर का है,
भाव-शरीर का प्रश्न भी 20 नंबर का है,
बुद्धि और दृष्टा भी उतने ही नंबर के प्रश्न हैँ !
जिन्हें हम कभी अटेम्प्ट ही नहीं करते, लिहाजा स्वास्थ्य के एग्जाम में फेल हो जाते हैं !
वास्तविक स्वास्थ्य पांचों शरीरों का समेकित रूप है !
पांचों क्वेश्चंस अटेम्प्ट करना ज़रूरी हैं!
हमारे शरीर में रोग दो तरह से होता है -
कभी शरीर में होता है और चित्त तक जाता है!
और कभी चित्त में होता है तथा शरीर में परिलक्षित होता है !!
दोनो स्थितियों में चित्तदशा अंतिम निर्धारक है!
कोरोना में वे सभी विजेता सिद्ध हुए, जिनका शरीर चाहे कितना कमजोर रहा हो, मगर चित्त मजबूत था ,
वहीं वे सभी खेत रहे, जिन का चित्त कमजोर पड़ गया !!
अस्पताल में अधिक मृत्यु होने के पीछे भी यही बुनियादी कारण है!!
अपनों के बीच होने से चित्त को मजबूती मिलती है , जो स्वास्थ्य का मुख्य आधार है!
जिस तरह, गलत खानपान से शरीर में टॉक्सिंस रिलीज होते हैं
उसी तरह, कमज़ोर भावनाओं और गलत विचारों से चित्त में भी टॉक्सिंस रिलीज होते हैं !!
कोशिका हमारे शरीर की सबसे छोटी इकाई है .. और एक कोशिका (cell) को सिर्फ न्यूट्रिएंट्स और ऑक्सीजन ही नहीं चाहिए बल्कि अच्छे विचारों की कमांड भी चाहिए होती है !
कोशिका की अपनी एक क्वांटम फील्ड होती है जो हमारी भावना और विचार से प्रभावित होती है!
हमारे भीतर उठा प्रत्येक भाव और विचार,, कोशिका में रजिस्टर हो जाता है..फिर यह मेमोरी, एक सेल से दूसरी सेल में ट्रांसफर होते जाती है !!
यह क्वांटम फील्ड ही हमारे स्वास्थ्य की अंतिम निर्धारक है !
जीवन मृत्यु का अंतिम फैसला भी कोशिका की इसी बुद्धिमत्ता से तय होता है !!
इसीलिए, बाहरी शरीर का रखरखाव मात्र एकांगी उपाय है!
भावना और विचार का स्वस्थ होना, स्थूल शरीर( gross body )के स्वास्थ्य से कहीं अधिक अहमियत रखता है !
हमारे बहुत से स्वास्थ्य सजग मित्र, खूब कसरत के बावजूद भी मोटे और बीमार हैं !
अनुवांशिकी के अलावा इस मोटापे का एक बड़ा एक बड़ा कारण भय, असुरक्षा और संग्रहण की मनोवृति भी है !!
नब्बे फीसदी बीमारियां मनोदेहिक ( psychosomatic) होती हैं!
अगर चित्त में भय है, असुरक्षा है, भागमभाग है.. तो रनिंग और जिमिंग जैसे उपाय अधिक काम नहीं आने वाले,
क्योंकि वास्तविक इम्युनिटी, पांचों शरीरों से मिलकर विकसित होती है!
यह हमारी चेतना के पांचों कोशो का सुव्यवस्थित तालमेल है !!
और यह इम्यूनिटी रातों-रात नहीं आती, यह सालों-साल के हमारे जीवन दर्शन से विकसित होती है !!
असुरक्षा, भय, अहंकार और महत्वाकांक्षा का ताना-बाना हमारे अवचेतन में बहुत जटिलता से गुंथा होता है!
अनुवांशिकी, चाइल्डहुड एक्सपिरिएंसेस , परिवेश, सामाजिक प्रभाव आदि से मिलकर अवचेतन का यह महाजाल निर्मित होता है !!
इसमें परिवर्तन आसान बात नहीं !!
इसे बदलने में छोटे-मोटे उपाय मसलन..योगा, मेडिटेशन, स्ट्रेस मैनेजमेंट आदि ना-काफी हैं!
मानसिकता परिवर्तन के लिए, हमारे जीवन-दर्शन (philosophy of life) में आमूल परिवर्तन लाजमी है !!
मगर यह परिवर्तन विरले ही कर पाते हैं !
मैंने अपने अनुभव में अनेक ऐसे लोग देखे हैं जो terminal disease से पीड़ित थे, मृत्यु सर पर खड़ी थी किंतु किसी तरह बचकर लौट आए !
जब वे लौटे तो कहने लगे कि
"हमने मृत्यु को करीब से देख लिया, जीवन का कुछ भरोसा नहीं है, अब हम एकदम ही अलग तरह से जिएंगे !"
किंतु बाद में पाया कि साल भर बाद ही वे वापस पुराने ढर्रे पर जीने लग गए हैं !
वही ईर्ष्या, राग द्वेष, अभिनिवेश फिर से लौट आए !
आमूल परिवर्तन बहुत कम लोग कर पाते हैं!
हमारे एक मित्र थे जो खूब जिम जाते थे! एक बार उन्हें पीलिया हुआ और बिगड़ गया !
एक महीने में उनका शरीर सिकुड़ गया और वह गहन डिप्रेशन में चले गए !
दस साल जिस शरीर को दिए थे, वह एक महीने में ढह गया !!
अंततः इसी डिप्रेशन से उनकी मृत्यु भी हो गई !
अंतिम वक्त में उन्हें डिप्रेशन इस बात का अधिक था कि अति-अनुशासन के चलते वे जीवन में मजे नहीं कर पाए,
सुस्वादु व्यंजन नहीं चखे,
मित्रों के साथ नाचे गाए नहीं, लंगोट भी पक्के रहे.. मगर इतनी तपस्या से बनाया शरीर एक महीने में ढह गया !!
जब वे स्वस्थ थे तो मैं अक्सर उनसे मजाक में कहा करता था
"शरीर में ऑक्सीजन तो डाल दिए हो, चेतना में प्रेम डाले कि नहीं ??
"शरीर में प्रोटीन तो भर लिए हो, चित्त में आनंद भरे कि नहीं? "
छाती तो विशाल कर लिए हो, हृदय विशाल किए कि नहीं ?"
क्योंकि अंत में यही बातें काम आती हैं... जीवन को उसकी संपूर्णता में जी लेने में भी , परस्पर संबंधों में भी, और स्वास्थ्य की आखिरी जंग में भी जीवन-दर्शन निर्धारक होता है, जीवन चर्या नहीं !!
कोरोना काल से हम यह सबक सीख लें तो अभी देर नहीं हुई है!
बाहरी शरीर के भीतर परिव्याप्त चेतना का महा-आकाश अब भी हमारी उड़ान के लिए प्रतीक्षारत है !!
देखो... बाजार खुलने लगे हैं..
हां, देखो कोरोना जाने लगा है,
बाजार भी खुलने लगा है!
पर वो कोने की दुकान क्यों नहीं खुलती…
वो सब्जीवाली अम्मा क्यों नहीं दिखती…
वो पानीपूरी वाले भइया नज़र नहीं आते…
जूते की दुकान पर ताला क्यों है…
पता चला,
उन्हें दूसरी लहर ले गई…
ता उम्र की तन्हाइयां दे गई…
सब खुलेगा पहले जैसा भी होगा…
पर बुझा चिराग फिर न जलेगा…
वो अकेला कहां गया होगा…
पूरा परिवार ले गया होगा…
किसी का स्कूल छूटा…
किसी का घर टूटा…
किसी की चूड़ी चटकी…
किसी की सांसे अटकी…
दुनिया फिर भी मुस्कुराएगी…
पर कुछ घरों में दिवाली कभी भी न आयेगी…
जो चले गए वो बस याद आयेंगे…
ना जाने ये चेहरे फिर कब मुस्कुराएंगे..!!
From facebook:
Please, don’t ask me if I’m over it yet.
I’ll never be over it.
Please, don’t tell me she’s in a better place.
She isn’t with me.
Please, don’t say at least she isn’t suffering.
I haven’t come to terms with why she had to suffer at all.
Please, don’t tell me you know how I feel
Unless you have lost a child.
Please, don’t ask me if I feel better.
Bereavement isn’t a condition that clears up.
Please, don’t tell me at least you had her for so many years.
What year would you choose for your child to die?
Please, don’t tell me God never gives us more than we can bear.
Please, just tell me you are sorry.
Please, just say you remember my child, if you do.
Please, just let me talk about my child.
Please, mention my child’s name.
Please, just let me cry.
– by Rita Moran
Sometimes there just really is no “why”. When someone’s time is up, it’s up. Life is unfair. Some people get the short end of the stick and some people poop rainbows. There is no rhyme or reason, quite often. No use wasting energy wondering why we have to endure so much loss and others we may know, don’t ( at least in this point in time- they may have had it in the past or may have it in the future). What makes someone unfortunate enough to be in a nightclub that gets shot up, or a building that collapses, or get a deadly disease young, and others escape that fate? There is no actual “plan”. It’s more like the randomness of how the cards are dealt. Just think- you could end up with a winning hand or a losing hand. It just is what it is. It’s up to us to figure out how to work through the pain of loss to live what is left of our own lives with at least some joy, eventually. So rather than a “it’s gd’s plan” approach ( what kind of “benevolent god” would intentionally inflict so much pain and loss on a Human race that is supposed to be “loved”?), take the approach of “that’s just the way the cookie crumbles”. We have no real control over when our number is up, beyond doing our best to care for our “vessels” (body and mind). We have no control over a loved one who might not care for their mind or body well, nor do we have control over a healthy, fit person getting a life snuffing illness. Letting go to the randomness and chaos of how life unfolds will keep us from thinking we have some kind of superhuman powers to stop death and loss from happening (unless we’re talking actual medical intervention, which is another discussion- and does not always work if a person’s number is up). Sht like this happens because sometimes life is sh*t. That’s it. Now, the process is about working through the feelings of loss and grief and missing the person or people, and finding the will and wherewithal to live our lives and still find some joy in them. The people we have known stay with us even after they are gone. Our memories stay with us our whole lives.
When you die, don't worry about your body...
Your relatives will do whatever it takes.
They will take off your clothes
They will wash you
They will dress you up
They will take you out of the house and deliver you to your new address.
Many will come to the funeral to honor you.
Some will even cancel their plans and ask for labor to go to the funeral.
Your things you didn't like to loan will be sold, donated or burned.
Your keys
Your tools
Your books
Your CDs, DVDs, games
Your collections
Your clothes...
And be sure the world won't stop and cry for you.
The economy will continue.
You will be replaced in work. Someone with the same or even better ability will take your place.
Your property will switch to heirs.
And don't doubt that about you for the small and big things you have done in your life will speak, judge, doubt and criticize.
Parents Never Die
Parents Don’t Die,
People say that when parents die,
the world comes to an end.
The house looks empty.
But I feel that parents live forever
and they stay with us.
It's us who forget them.
The matter of the fact is that
a brother has eyes of his beloved father,
a sister has the pretty face
like the compassionate mother,
a sibling smiles like dad or
a sister cooks like mom.
Parents don't die.
They never leave us.
They live among us.
They live in us.
We are the reflections of our parents.
Despite their physical absence,
they continue to live in us.
When you want to remember parents,
when you want to see them,
when you want to be with them,
simply gather your siblings around you.
You will find the mesmerizing smile
of the mother in one sibling,
the soothing voice of the father in another. You will feel the parents very close to you.
All around you. Deep inside you..
The garden of love that parents cultivate and grow with love, from the time that you are born, with the hard work of their tears and blood; it will continue to bloom,..
unaffected by the cycles of tough weathers of life.. They shelter us in tough times..
Love your parents..
Love your siblings..
Continue to feed the garden that parents cultivated with love and compassion so that it never stops to bloom and blossom..
You will make your world a living paradise on earth.. A heaven that only knows love, compassion, care, respect and it is You.
कितनी सुन्दर सृष्टि की रचना परमपिता परमात्मा ने की है, हम जहां जहां जाते हैं हर प्रकार के खिलते हुए रंगों को देखते हैं, मन प्रफुल्लित हो जाता है, फिर भी मनुष्य निराश क्यों हो जाता है? क्योंकि स्वार्थ और लोभ बीच में आकर इस सुन्दर खेल को बिगाड़ देते हैं, ईर्ष्या द्वेष वैमनस्य मनुष्य के आनन्द को छीन कर ले जाते हैं, कई लोग तो डिप्रेशन में चले जाते हैं, निराशता घर कर जाती है। क्योंकि उन्हें ना तो परमपिता परमात्मा पर विश्वास है ना प्रकृति पर, और ना ही स्वयं पर, जबकि तीनों सत्ताओं में आनन्द का निवास है। सागर उमड़ रहे हैं, हवाएं सुखद स्पर्श कर रही हैं बादल उमड़ घुमड़ कर हम पर आनन्द की वर्षा कर रहे हैं,प्रकृति चारों ओर से अपने रंग बिखेर रही है।
इसलिए जीवन में हमें कभी निराश नहीं होना चाहिए। यही परमात्मा के प्रति प्रेम,श्रद्धा,विश्वास और सच्ची भक्ति है।
सुख और दु:ख भी तो हमें जीवन में अनेक शिक्षाएंद देकर जाते हैं। और हमारा तप उनका स्वागत करता है।
प्रत्येक व्यक्ति को चाहिए कि अपने आनन्द के द्वारा परमात्मा का स्वागत और धन्यवाद करे।
Contrary to this:
The person who dies is on an unknown journey. He has no one with him. None of his family, friends, relatives are with him. He does not know what is ahead for him. People who are left behind have everything else except the dead person. They are not on an unknown journey. They even have support of others.
जब कोई ज्ञानी प्रतिदिन प्राणियों को मृत्यु का ग्रास होते देखता है तो उसे निर्वेद तथा चिंता आ घेरते हैं। निरंतर चिंतन से उसे बोध होता है कि मैं मर्त्य हूं, मेरे आत्मा और देह का वियोग अवश्यंभावी है। उसे दिखता है कि सह्योग का अंत वियोग है; शरीर का परिणाम राख है (भस्मान्तं शरीरम्)[यजुर्वेद ४०/१५] तब उसका देह विषयक अभिमान नष्ट हो जाता है, इस देह की ममता उसे नहीं पकड़ती। उसे इस शरीर से पृथक कोई ऐसा तत्व दिखता है जो कि मरणधर्मा देह में रहता हुआ भी मृत्यु का ग्रास नहीं होता। उससे वह अमर्त्य समझता है। उसे भासता है की वास्तविक वह 'यह' है किंतु इसका मरण धर्मा के साथ संग उसे अकुला देता है, बेचैन कर देता है। तेरी शरण में आता है। तेरे गुण से उसका हृदय भर जाता है। भूल जाता है वह संसार को, बार बार तुझे पुकारता है, दिल से पुकारता है, हृदय से पुकारता है। तब कहने लगता है--यस्त्वा......
मैं अपने आप को मरते और तुमको अमर्त्य से मानता हुआ तेरे अनुराग से पूर्ण हृदय से तुझे बार-बार पुकारता हूं। केवल पुकारता ही नहीं, तुझसे कुछ मांगता हूं--'जातवेदो यशो अस्मासु धेहि' सब में रहने वाले! हमें ऐसे दो। मुझे? नहीं, हमें।
पुकारता में हूं, किंतु मांगता सबके लिए हूं, तूने ही सिखाया है। तूने अपनी वेदवाणी में फरमाया है--केवलाघो भवति केवलादि
[ऋ१०.११७.६] अकेला खाने वाला पाप खाता है। पापी तो यशरहित या= अपयश वाला होता है। मुझे अपयश नहीं चाहिए, अतः हम सबको यश दे। हम सभी यशस्वी हों--बाहुभ्यां यशोबलम्--भुजाओं से यशोयुक्त बल मिले।
जातवेद ! जैसे सुकृति के लिए तू छोटा सा भी सुख कारी सुराख=छिद्र कर देता है, वह संसार के सभी सुखों ऐश्वर्या को आराम से प्राप्त करता है। प्रभु! जातवेद!
सुराख को थोड़ा सा चौड़ा कर दे ! मुझे घोड़े नहीं चाहिए, मुझे पुत्र कलत्र नहीं चाहिएं। मुझे चाहिए अमृत=मृत्यु रहित जीवन। कीर्ति तो नाशवान है, अनित्य है, अतः हम इस किसी के चक्कर में ना पड़ रहें। हमारी कामना इससे बड़ी है। हमारी हार्दिक भावना है कि हम मुक्ति प्राप्त करें।
बाकी सब यहीं रह जाता है।
अतः मैं ज्ञान पूर्वक इससे छूटना चाहता हूं। केवल मैं नहीं हम सभी। हम सभी दु:खी हैं, मृत्यु से त्रस्त है। अमृत का प्याला पिला और हमें मृत्यु से छुड़ा।
Movies--Evelyn
Tales by Light--life and death part 1 and 2
Netflix- The future of- Life after death
Technological Resurrection.pdf
मृत्युञ्जय
मृत्यु का रहस्य जान लेने के बाद वेद के मृत्युंजय ऋषि मानव मात्र को मृत्यु भय से मुक्त होने का आदेश देते हैं।
हे मनुष्यो ! तुम मृत्यु के पैर उठाते हुए आगे बढ़ोगे, तभी दीर्घायु पाओगे, और प्रजा और धन से भरपूर बनोगे, किन्तु इसके लिए तुम शुद्ध, पवित्र और यज्ञमय जीवन बिताओ, संयम सदाचार से रहो । मृत्युञ्जय
मृत्यो: पदं योपयन्तो यदैत ,द्राघीय आयु:
प्रतरं दधाना:।
आप्यायमाना: प्रजया धनेन,शुद्धा: पूता: भवत यज्ञियास:।। ऋ॰ १०.१९.२
वैदिक भजन
राग देस
गायन समय रात्रि का प्रथम प्रहर
ताल रूपक सात मात्रा
मृत्यु के कांटे गढ़े हैं हर कदम पर
जिंदगी में पग उठाना तुम संभल कर
मौत से तुम डरना जाना
मृत्यु भय पर विजय पाना
चरण चूमेगी स्वयं श्री सम्पदा
धान्य- धन्य से पूर्ण होएगी प्रजा
मृत्यु के .......
यज्ञ में जीवन निभाना
राह उल्टी पड़ ना जाना
शुद्ध मन की भावना रखना सदा
ईश- चरणों में झुके रहना सदा
मृत्यु के........
सभी जानते हैं कि देह जड़ है। संबंध तो उस आत्मा से होता है, जो शरीर छोड़ देने के बाद भी जीवित रहती है। फिर जो जीवित है, मौजूद है, उसके लिए रोने और शोक करने से क्या प्रयोजन ?दो जीवनों को जोड़ने वाली ग्रंथि को मृत्यु कहते हैं। वह एक वाहन है, जिस पर चढ़कर आत्माएँ इधर से उधर, उघर-से-इधर आती-जाती रहती हैं। जिन्हें हम प्यार करते हैं, वे मृत्यु द्वारा हमसे छीने नहीं जा सकते। वे अदृश्य बन जाते हैं तो भी उनकी सत्ता में कोई अंतर नहीं आता। जो कल मौजूद था, वह आज भी मौजूद है। हम न दूसरों को मरा हुआ मानें न अपनी मृत्यु से डरें, क्योंकि मरना एक विश्राम मात्र है, उसे अंत नहीं कहा जा सकता।
श्रीमद्भागवत गीता श्लोक-
नासतो विद्यते भावो नाभावो विद्यते सत:।
उभयोरपि दृष्टोऽन्तस्त्वनयोस्तत्त्वदॢशभि
अर्थात
स्वभावत: शरीर नित्य परिवर्तनशील है और आत्मा शाश्वत है।
और आत्मीय संबंध जन्म जन्मांतरो तक बने रहते है ऐसी ही मान्यता से कभी भी स्वयं को अकेला ना समझें
Death scares us. And because it is scares us, we avoid thinking about it, talking about it, sometimes even acknowledging it, even when it's happening to someone close to us yet, in a bizarre, backward way, death is the light by which the shadow of all of life meaning is measured. Without death, everything would feel inconsequential, all experience arbitrary, all metrics and values suddenly zero. As humans, we are blessed with the ability to imagine ourselves in hypothetical situations, to contemplate both the past and the future, to imagine other realities or situations where things might be different. And it's because of this unique mental ability, we all at some point become aware of the inevitability of our own death. Because we are able to conceptualize alternate versions of reality, we are also the only animal capable of imagining a reality without ourselves in it this realization causes 'Death Terror', a deep existential anxiety that underlies everything we think or do.
In order to compensate for our fear of the inevitable loss of our physical self, we try to construct a conceptual self that will live forever. So we start immortality projects that allow our conceptual self to live on way past the point of our physical death. But, whenever immortality projects fail, when the meaning is lost, when the prospect of our of our conceptual self outliving our physical self no longer seems possible or likely, death Terror- that horrible depressing anxiety -creeps back into our mind. Our immortality projects are our values. They are the barometers of meaning and worth in our life. People's immortality projects are actually the problem not the solution. Rather than attempting to implement, often through lethal Force, their conceptual self across the world, people should question their conceptual self and become more comfortable with the reality of Their Own Death. While death is bad, it is inevitable. Therefore, we should not avoid this realization, but rather come to terms with it as best we can. Because once we become comfortable with the fact of our own death -the root Terror the underlying anxiety motivating all of life frivolous ambitions -we can then choose our values more freely, unrestrained by the illogical quest for immortality, and freed from dangerous dogmatic views.
Confronting the reality of our own mortality is important because it obliterates all the crappy, fragile, superficial values in life. If death is the only thing that is certain it must be the compass by which we orient all of our other values and decisions. The only way to be comfortable with death is to understand and see yourself as something bigger than yourself semicolonious that is stretch Beyond serving yourself, that are simple and immediate and controllable and tolerant of the chaotic word around you. Happiness comes from the same thing caring about something greater than yourself, believing that you are a contributing component in some much larger entity, that your life is but a mere side process of some great unintelly Gible production. The more someone peer into the darkness, the brighter life gets, the quieter the world becomes and the less unconscious resistance someone feel to, well, anything.
Nothing makes you present and mindful like being mere inches away from your own death.
By Mark Manson
When we lose someone, we keep grieving and mourning for the rest of our lives. The feeling of loss takes over the feeling of happy moments spent together. We do everything to remember the loss and keep grieving. If we stop grieving, the fear of losing him permanently grips us.
It is definitely challenging not to feel loss. However, we can at least try to remember the cherished moments, even while suffering. The word death gives us fear. What can we do so as not to feel that fear? One way is to think of one big eternal consciousness. We all are part of that one omnipresent consciousness. Looking at everything with love may give some solace. The one we lost is also somewhere in this everything.
There is no beginning and no end of anything. Nothing is ever gone. It just gets passed on from one form of energy to another.
जब हम किसी को खो देते हैं तो हम जीवन भर दुःख और शोक मनाते रहते हैं। खोने की भावना एक साथ बिताए सुखद क्षणों की भावना पर हावी हो जाती है। हम जाने वाले व्यक्ति को याद रखने और शोक मनाने के लिए सब कुछ करते हैं। यदि हम शोक करना बंद कर दें, तो उसे स्थायी रूप से खोने का डर हमें जकड़ लेता है।
किसी का जाना महसूस न करना निश्चित रूप से चुनौतीपूर्ण है। हालाँकि, हम कम से कम, कष्ट सहते हुए भी, उन ख़ुशी वाले यादगार पलों को याद करने की कोशिश कर सकते हैं। मृत्यु शब्द हमें भय देता है। उस डर को महसूस न करने के लिए हम क्या कर सकते हैं? एक तरीका यह है कि एक बड़ी शाश्वत चेतना के बारे में सोचे। हम सभी उस एक सर्वव्यापी चेतना का हिस्सा हैं। हर चीज़ को प्यार से देखने से कुछ सांत्वना मिल सकती है। जिसे हमने खोया वह भी कहीं न कहीं इसी सब कुछ में है।
किसी भी चीज़ की न तो कोई शुरुआत होती है और न ही कोई अंत। कुछ भी कभी कहीं नहीं जाता है. यह बस ऊर्जा के एक रूप से दूसरे रूप में स्थानांतरित हो जाता है।