Loyalty involves self-sacrifice and gives meaning to life and relationships. However, the receiving person also has a moral duty to justify it by his behavior.
Family loyalties involve certain obligations. These obligations do not depend on the other family members' acts or reciprocities.
Failure and success are our own and we should take responsibility for these. People may support or antagonize us, guide or mislead us but ultimately, we should own our achievements as well as downfalls.
Deception does not help in the long run. Eventually, dishonesty and deceit entangle those who practice it. It shreds their self- esteem and takes away their inner peace.