Husband and wife's relation is like river and ocean.Sometimes husband takes the role of ocean and wife the role of river and at other times it is vice versa.
The river keeps moving towards the ocean,no matter what the obstacle and ocean always lets river(with all impurities) merge in it and then both flow together as one.Onlything which remains is oneness.
A friend came to my house to drink coffee, we sat down and talked about life. At one point in the conversation, I told him, ′′ I'm going to do the dishes and be right back ".
He looked at me like I told him I'd build a space rocket. So he said with admiration but a little perplexed: ′′ I'm happy you help your wife, I don't help because when I do something my wife doesn't appreciate. Last week I washed the floor and not a thank you."
I went back to sit with him and explained that I didn't ′′ help ′′ my wife. Actually my wife doesn't need help she needs a partner. I'm a partner at home, and in this company functions are divided, but it's not ′′ help ′′.
I don't help my wife clean the house because I live here too and it's necessary that I clean too.
I don't help my wife cook because I want to eat too and I need to cook too.
I don't help my wife do dishes after eating because I use those dishes too.
I don't help my wife with her children because they are also my children and my job is to be a father.
I don't help my wife wash, lay or fold clothes because the clothes are mine and my kids.
I'm not home help, I'm part of the house. And as for praising, I asked my friend when was the last time after his wife finished cleaning the house, doing laundry, changing bed sheets, bathing her kids, cooking, organizing, etc., he said thanks to her.,
But thanks like: Wow honey!!! You are amazing!!!
Does this sound crazy to you? Does this seem weird to you? When you, once in a lifetime, cleaned the floor, you expected at least one award of excellence with great glory... why? Never thought about it man?
Maybe because sexist culture has shown that everything is their job.
Maybe they taught you that all this has to be done without having to lift a finger? So praise how you wanted to be praised, equally, with the same intensity. Give her a hand, act like a real companion, not like a guest who comes just to eat, sleep, bath and meet sexual needs... Feel like home. At your house.
The real change of our society begins in our homes, let's teach our sons and daughters the true sense of camaraderie!
Symbols of love:
Kam Dev is Devta of Love
Rati is Devi of Love
- Ram setu (Ram SIta)
- Path made by Dashrath Manjhi
- Meghdoot by Kalidas (Yaksh and Yakshini)
- Abhigyan Shakuntalam (Dushyant Sakuntala)
- Naal Damyanti
- Gandhari- Dritrastra
- Savitri Satyavan
- Shiv Parvati
- Pururva and Urvashi
- Radha Krishn
- Laxman Urmila
- Menaka and Vishwamitra
- Meghnad and Sulochana
- Bhim and Hidimba
- Chandra and Tara
- Murugan and Valli
- Ganesh- Riddhi, Siddhi, and Buddhi
- Ravan and Mandodari
Movie- Manjhi
Increasing legal marriage age:
- More time to get education and that also with less responsibilities and distractions.( studies can be pursued after wedding).
- Less divorces and misunderstandings as people get more maturity( early weddings can increase understanding of each other and more tolerance).
- Population control. ( There may be increase in the number of pre marital sexual relations, pregnancies and babies ).
- Better health of girls. ( Health is individual. there is no magic age number at which all girls are healthy enough to bear pregnancy).
- Control of love Jihad ( it may increase as the perpetrators now have more time to pursue girls).